The Idiot’s Guide To Everyday Life

Stop the merry-go-round, I wanna get off.
29.May.07, 10:01 am
Filed under: My Munchkins, Rants, Tidbits About My Life

I’ve officially had no energy for days now. Last night’s sleep was broken, with nightmares and an asthma attack, so this morning I feel like death-warmed-over. I know I have a massive amount of housework to do, but I have no energy or motivation to get it done.

It’s been rainy outside for days and that just adds to the gloomy mood I’m in. I thought it was supposed to be APRIL showers bring May flowers? Apparently, it’s a little late this year. I’ve spent the last two days curled up with books in my pj’s.

The school called me this morning. Apparently I was supposed to have a meeting with Jaden’s teachers to go over his IEP and testing results to see if he was going to be able to stay in the Specials program. He was up for evaluation this year, and they didn’t know if he’d be able to stay in there with all of the progress he’s made so far. He’s not used to being in the normal classroom full time, so if he’s taken out of there all at once, I know it won’t be good for him. He’s a bright kid, but he has a lot of trouble focusing, and the Specials class gives him a smaller class size, so he gets more one-on-one help. It’s been great for him for the past three years. He’s come a long way. I’d hate to see him regress because he’s not ready yet.

Jaden has a bad habit of not bringing home papers he’s supposed to, so when the school called I had no idea what meeting they were talking about. Luckily, there’s ONE day left in the school year, so we’re going to have the meeting tomorrow morning instead. This is lovely. We have to have it closed out by tomorrow. And I don’t even have a medical evaluation done on him by his Dr to backup everything we did before. Apparently I never got THAT form either. These idiots, they should know better than to trust important paperwork to be brought home in a backpack. Sometimes, the backpack itself doesn’t even make it home. If it’s THAT important, mail a copy to the parents directly, and FOLLOW-UP with a call before it’s time for the meeting, not when I don’t show up. And if they can’t reach me at home the day of the meeting, don’t call MY mother. I’m not in elementary school. I know how to work voice mail.


Thursday Thirteen – Happy Birthday Jocelyn!
24.May.07, 14:29 pm
Filed under: Tidbits About My Life
In honor of her birthday on Monday:Thirteen Things about Jocelyn!1. She’s my little princess, my only daughter.2. She has the ability to light up an entire room just by entering it.

3. I have never seen eyes the color of hers before, and doubt I ever will again. She is truely beautiful.

4. Her smile is never fake, her laugh is never forced, she is a genuinely happy child.

5. She would rather sit in my lap while I read a book than run and play with anyone.

6. Knows how to melt your bad mood in seconds.

7. Has had be wrapped around her little finger since birth.

8. Believes that she can do anything she wants.

9. CAN do anything she sets her heart to.

10. Is talented and brilliant and charming.

11. Will be both a prima ballerina AND a top-notch attorney when not practicing cutting edge-neurosurgery.

12. Gives love freely with her whole heart, without question.

13. Believes Mommy can do anything, and I only hope I can live up to her expectations.

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And I second that!
23.May.07, 20:22 pm
Filed under: Hopes, Work

I am up for a second interview for a new position I want. I have applied for an Accounting Admin position at a local company, and they called me in for my first interview today. I’d already spoken to them on the phone, through email, and filled out a questionnaire, so I felt pretty good about it. I was early, and passed all of their aptitude tests with flying colors, so the personal interview portion was a breeze.

The girl was so impressed with my experience and skills that she’s recommending that her HR manager and the CEO sit in together on my second interview, hopefully later this week. They wanted the position filled yesterday, but hadn’t found the right person yet. She said she was very excited about me and hopefully this will work out well.

I was asked for salary requirements when I sent in my resume, and I asked for a higher amount than I expected, stating that it was negotiable. She told me it was more than doable with my experience!!! I’m so happy I could scream right now, but my daughter is asleep, in her sleeping bag, in the hallway just a few feet from me, protesting her bedtime.

That old Blah feeling
22.May.07, 23:13 pm
Filed under: Tidbits About My Life

I feel beige. I don’t know how else to describe it. I feel nothing really. Stuck in a rut, needing a break, a diversion from the monotony that is my life right now.

I have no energy, no motivation, and I just need to get moving again. The ex is supposed to be taking the kids this weekend, but his definition of weekend doesn’t seem to mean keeping them for 24 hours or more. I’m tired of this. He has never taken them for a full weekend to give me a real break. If he picks them up at 6:30 on Friday, he drops them off at 4:30 or 5pm on Saturday. Give me a break, people! I need to breathe too!! His excuse? He has “things to do”. So do I, and I take care of our children everyday despite those “things”.

I think it’s time to put my foot down. If he’s going to have them for the weekend, it’s going to be the WEEKEND. Friday night through Sunday evening. That’s the visitation schedule, that’s how it’s going to go. I’ve kept a journal of each time he’s taken the kids. He’s had them for a visit a whopping 4 times in the past 6 months (and I’m giving him credit for his mom taking them for Christmas and him showing up there, as well as the 6 hours they had them on Easter). Before that, the last time he saw them was last July, when the issue with Crisco’s son happened. After that, I stopped caring about him seeing them. At least with me I know they’re safe. Now that the brat is no longer an issue, he can spend as much time as he wants with them, because his mother is there to make sure nobody would harm them.

I guess I just need a chance to let loose for a while. Not really do anything special, but just be by myself. I haven’t done that in a long time. Maybe this weekend will give me the chance.

Happy Birthday to EVERYONE!
19.May.07, 21:49 pm
Filed under: Friends & Fam, My Munchkins

The birthday party went off with only a slight hitch – WIND!!

It would have been a beautiful day if not for the horrible winds that made it feel about 50 degrees at the park. We all ended up bundling up with jackets or blankets from our cars. Everyone had a great time, though.

 We went to a local park with a picnic lunch and cake and ice cream and the kids got to play. It was all family there, and no other kids could make it, but they still had a great time. This weekend happened to be not only graduation, but also baseball tournament weekend, so all of the kids we invited were at games.

Jaden and Josie got lots of clothes and new toys, and 2 sets of sheets each for their beds. They were really happy, and excited. My mom got some new towels and decor for her house. Linda got some home-spa pedicure lotions and scrubs and we got her a porcelain birdhouse with pretty roses and butterflies on it. She loved that.

Next year, we’re doing something INDOORS!

Thursday Thirteen – Happy Birthday Jaden!
17.May.07, 11:53 am
Filed under: Friends & Fam, My Munchkins
Thirteen Things about JADEN

1. He’s my firstborn, my only son.

2. He can melt your heart and make you want to pull your hair out at the same time.

3. If I could bottle the energy he has I could make a fortune.

4. He could eat like a horse, but is thin as an Ethiopian.

5. Is the most inquisitive child I know.

6. Can destroy an object in .03 seconds flat.

7. Can destroy a room in .03 seconds flat.

8. Does not understand the concept of “NO”.

9. Has a heart the size of Alaska.

10. Needs LOTS of affection, but gives just as much.

11. Has never met a stranger.

12. Believes everyone is a friend he just hasn’t met yet.

13. Would hold your hand and care for you even if he didn’t know your name.

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An act of God or Congress?
10.May.07, 11:28 am
Filed under: Tidbits About My Life

Just an update on the CSED situation.

After my last post I emailed 2 state senators and a state rep to request an investigation into the lack of communication lines available to single parents within the CSED organization. The entire setup of their system is completely ridiculous.

This morning I woke up to a 3-sentence reply to my email:

Bryan is your caseworker, he has prepared a Contempt Citation, for failure to pay.  You will be notified of the court date once one has been assigned to the case.  You are not required to attend the Contempt hearing but you will be given notice.  Thanks”

This was in response to a very LONG email with MANY questions to their office, none of which were answered, including how to contact my worker.

This Contempt Citation was completely unnecessary, Jeff didn’t do anything wrong except not send in a pymt, which was perfectly understandable given the fact that he THOUGHT they were going to automatically garnish it. He told me he thought it came out automatically no matter where he worked because they’ve always caught up with him. I told him that’s only because I’ve updated them. It was in our original court order that we have to update them with a change of address and employer within 10 days of the change.

I emailed the CSED back and asked them why they couldn’t bother to just pick up the phone and CALL his employer to fix this mistake without having to file court papers and drag this out even longer. It’ll take at least a month to get a court date and then they will still have to garnish his pay, which is exactly what is already being done. Obviously the CSED workers aren’t having to take up their valuable time actually SPEAKING to their clients, so why can’t they use it SPEAKING to the employers of the NCP’s who have made a mistake. It would be a lot less hassle in the long run.

At this point I called the hotline again and told them I needed to have my worker call me. They said all they could do was to send an email message to the worker to request it, they could not guarantee a call. Lovely. So these idiots answer to nobody?

Next, I looked up the Manpower HQ office contact info. I called the HR department and was transferred to the CPC office, which handles court orders, to a Rozalynd Edwards who told me that all child support orders are handled through a special office out of Dallas, TX and gave me the number to that office. I spoke with a woman there who looked up his information and told me that she had no record of them ever receiving the court order and didn’t know why anyone would send a letter saying he didn’t work for them when he was still listed as an active associate. She said they couldn’t take any action to even contact CSED themselves until they sent in something else, and she said they’d need a copy of the letter that was sent to see what was going on. I got her fax number and sent it, along with her phone number and the gist of our conversation in an email to the CSED office.

I guess threatening them with action by the State Senators and Reps finally did something, because within an hour of sending them the contact information for the CS office of Manpower they called them, faxed a copy of the garnishment order and the letter they’d received, and were told that they had no idea why that mistake was made but that they would begin garnishment immediately on his next paycheck, which will be next week. The worker called me immediately after that and we had it straightened out. The girl who called me was not my worker, he’d left for the day already (at 1pm?) but she said that she’d go ahead and update in the system that he’d be starting ANOTHER new job on the 29th, and that if they had a start date for him already he should be in their computers too, so they’d send out a garnishment order NOW. That way, by the time his first check rolls around, they should be ready to go ahead and send in the pymt.

That was all it took. Why did they have to make it so hard? A simple phone call and faxing the information. If they’d told me about the letter they’d received the first time I’d called the hotline I could have told them that it was a mistake and they could have gotten it fixed long before now, and I wouldn’t be having to replan my kids’ birthday party because I can’t afford it. This is completely ridiculous.

If CSED can’t take care of my case, then it is in my family’s best interest to take care of it myself. From here on out, I will be proactive in doing the legwork for my case and not leaving ANYTHING to chance. Luckily, the divorce should be final within the next month so the case will be transferred to the Norman CSED office and they’re supposed to be a lot better at handling this.