The Idiot’s Guide To Everyday Life

Artistic Ingenuity
29.Apr.08, 11:30 am
Filed under: Goals, Plans, Tidbits About My Life, Work

I work in an auto repair shop which also rents uHaul trucks. This sounds pretty mundane, until you realize that this auto repair shop also houses the workshop for The Woodchuck Chop, one of my boss’ many other ventures. The Woodchuck Chop is a gallery in the Paseo Arts District that deals in custom cedar furniture and sculptures, wood artwork, custom carved marble pieces, sandblasted stone art and sculpture, sandblasted glass art, and more. We also do custom cut vinyl lettering for signs and window art on cars and buildings. He also installs decorative fountains for ponds, or what I call “waterscaping”.

Basically I’m the new Girl Friday for a Jack-of-all-trades.

Yesterday, my boss told me he really wants to kick the vinyl cutting into high gear. The Paseo Arts Festival is coming up on Memorial Day weekend and he wants me to work at the gallery for him then. He said we can custom cut the vinyl on the spot and make anything the customer asks for. We’re putting together some show boards to preview what we can do, and that way we can just save the files pre-drawn, and add lettering as requested, and sell dozens or even hundreds of them that weekend.

My cut: 50% of everything after costs!

This is a real opportunity to get my finances in good shape for the move. I can pay off the van, and stick the rest back for my new home. This is the best news I’ve had in a while! Things are really looking up for me for the first time in a very long time. I’d kind of forgotten what this felt like.

I’m going to be optimistic. I’m not going to hold my breath waiting for everything to fall apart. This will work out. I will move, and start my life over. My kids will be better off elsewhere, I will be better off elsewhere, and there are better things in life than Oklahoma City can offer us. Someone is definitely smiling on me right now.


When wondering “What if?”
22.Apr.08, 20:51 pm
Filed under: Tidbits About My Life

There comes a point in your life when you realize who matters, who never did, who won’t anymore, and who always will. So don’t worry about people from your past, they didn’t make it to your future for a reason.

19.Apr.08, 12:43 pm
Filed under: Goals, Rants

I believed that my entire tax refund was going to be taken by my student loans. I was ok with that, because I knew to expect it. Then I double checked on Wednesday that it was going to be taken and the IRS website said that my refund had been reduced by a small amount, but that the majority of it was scheduled to be deposited on Friday. A LARGE CHUNK OF CHANGE, mind you. I was ecstatic!! I called the people I was going to have to pay and told them to expect payment by today. I was going to pay off my van!! It was a great day!!

This afternoon I checked the mail to find a letter from the IRS telling me that the exact amount that was scheduled to be deposited on Friday was instead sent to the US Dept of Ed on my behalf. Um, hello! If it’s going to be offset, don’t list on your “Where’s My Refund” website that it is scheduled to be deposited!! I had plans for that money when I thought I was getting it!! I had plans for moving out!! I had plans for paying bills!! And now I have nothing!!

Today has completely gone to hell. I am officially pissed off.

What family?
18.Apr.08, 18:43 pm
Filed under: Tidbits About My Life

I’ve often talked about how I have felt unwanted or looked down upon by my family members for many years. Today definitely rates in that category.

When I stopped to visit my mother on Sunday, she told me that the rest of the family had changed the time for the April birthdays party, and it’ll be held this friday (today) at 5pm at my aunt’s house in Rivendell.

What party?

This happens so often it makes me want to scream. The last time someone in my family had a baby nobody in my family even bothered to tell me she was pregnant until the month before the baby was born – and that was only because she called while the rest of us were having Thanksgiving dinner and mentioned that she was really tired and felt huge. I had to ask why she felt that way!!

Two years ago, I didn’t find out when we were going to have our family Christmas gathering until the day before it happend, so I skipped it. When asked why I wasn’t there: I had to do laundry. I don’t want to be where I’m not wanted. I don’t want to be invited to spend time with my own family as an afterthought.

Then tonight…

4:45pm, I’m getting the kids ready to go, head out to the van, but can’t get an answer at my aunt’s house to make sure I wasn’t supposed to bring anything. I called my mom, and she said, “Well, it got changed I think. It was this morning, or noon, or something like that.”

Nice. So not only did they plan a birthday party and not tell me, they went right ahead and HAD a birthday party for the whole family to enjoy… and DIDN’T INVITE ME OR MY KIDS! And people wonder why I don’t feel like I have any reason to stay in this god-forsaken state. I have no family. They don’t give a damn about me, so why should I stay here for them to treat me like a third-class citizen? I’m so sick of feeling inferior to these people who are my own kin. They can go on and have their fun, and play their “I’m better than you” games. I am done. I’m sick or it. I have no more family.

Taxing Day
15.Apr.08, 13:58 pm
Filed under: Tidbits About My Life, Work

Am I the only person on the planet who can go in to get her starter fixed on her vehicle and come out with a job?

They mechanic offered me the desk chair to sit in behind the counter while he worked on my van, and I could see how disorganized the office was at a glance. The owner was in his office punching away at his calculator and emitting quiet curses at it from time to time, so before I was ready to go, I poked my head in and said, “Excuse me, sir, but would you happen to need any help here in the office, with billing and finances and paperwork, etc.?”

He looked at me like he was a dying man and I was his last chance, and said, “I’ll pay you $20 right now if you can add the numbers on this page. I took it, sat down at the computer, opened Excel, and made a quick spreadsheet with all of his expense categories and totals. He then handed me 4 more pages and then a quick list of the totals for the last half of 2007. I figured them all up, and he said, “I’ve got to have my taxes done by about 3pm today…. do you think you could help me?” I said it would be no problem and set to it. I went through his 2006 tax return and entered all of the info and then finished the figures for this year, and he ended up owing less than half of what he did last year. He said, “We’re well beyond $20 now, I’ll make this worth your while if you can work for me.”

So it’s not going to be full time for now. That’s ok, I can live with that. I still sub teach for now, but it’s going to pay more than sub teaching does, and it’s accounting, which I’m good at and, being the nerd I am, I actually enjoy.  He had to leave the office before I finished up, but he told me to come in tomorrow morning and we’d figure up how much he owes me – which I’m going to mostly put towards the work I had done on my van if it’ll cover it – and then we’re going to work out my job.

His wife kept coming in over and over saying, “God sent us an Angel today. Gary’s blood pressure was through the roof he was stressing out so bad over those taxes. Thank you so much!” and she gave me a big hug before I left. I’m really looking forward to this job, hopefully it’ll work out well for all of us.

Peace. Be Still.
9.Apr.08, 17:11 pm
Filed under: Rants

I can’t quite slap words together to adequately explain the thoughts that I’m having at the moment, except I fucking hate that people are no longer capable of discerning between truth and bullshit. I’m so fucking tired of it.

Zoom Zoom….
8.Apr.08, 11:16 am
Filed under: Automotive, Friends & Fam, Tidbits About My Life

I got a new vehicle this weekend. Well, it’s new to me, I bought it from a close friend. It’s a 2001 Chevy Venture LS. Yes, I have re-achieved minivan status. It came complete with the soccer-mom sticker on the back, LOL.

It’s not perfect, there’s a tiny leak that nobody can find in the cooling system somewhere, but it only requires a half gallon of coolant occasionally – maybe twice a month or something – so no big deal. The starter may need to be replaced in the next few months, but those are cheap to pick up, since Ventures are a dime a dozen here and the part is located on the top of the engine, so it should be pretty cheap to fix.

All-in-all it’s a very good deal. The friend I bought it from drove it to me from St. Louis and we had a great time catching up and hanging out. We hadn’t seen each other in quite a while, so it was great just to catch up on lost time.

I also proved, yet again, that there is NOTHING to do in Oklahoma City, especially on a Sunday. We could have gone to the Medieval Faire, but we didn’t have enough time. He had to fly back that afternoon, so we just hung out and had coffee and drove around for a few hours to reminisce and talk. It was a wonderful weekend.

Thank you, Gavin. I owe you a lot.