The Idiot’s Guide To Everyday Life

Recap of 6 months with little time to blog.
3.Apr.09, 20:05 pm
Filed under: Tidbits About My Life, Work

I’ve been so busy over the last several months that I’ve not posted. I’m sorry for anyone who’s tuned in. Life has been hectic.

So here’s a quick recap:

October 2008 – moved into apt with the kids in SE OKC. YAY

December 2008 – first Christmas on our own, was very broke, but happy.

January 2009 – work started to fall apart. Payroll wouldnt’ always clear. The only attorney in the firm who kept it financially afloat (read: did any work) left due to the owner’s bullshit. Negotiated a contract for job security/raise/tuition assistance which didn’t pan out. Began looking for new job.

February 2009 – More problems at work. Boss rarely there, excuse after excuse given. It finally got to the point that I was sick of having to cover for the bitch with opposing counsel and judges and clients. I gave my notice on Feb 26th and made Feb 27th my last day.

March 2009 – Started work at a new firm March 2nd. It’s a great place, they treat me like family. I’m told everyday how much I am valued and appreciated. The ex-boss refused to give me my final paycheck (she’s broke) and when my new boss (former judge) wrote her a demand letter on my behalf, she wrote back a complete bullshit fax saying I supposedly “misappropriated funds” and “tortuously interfered with business relationships” and that she would be doing more investigating before possibly pressing charges or seeking civil damages. Yeah… whatever. I filed a claim for wages with the Ok Dept of Labor and they gave me a judgment against her. I’m filing that with the local courts on Tuesday to get a lien on her assets.

March 29th Peter arrived from England. I cannot even describe in words how much I love this man. But in my next post…. I’m going to try.


A-moving we shall go
11.Oct.08, 20:53 pm
Filed under: Goals, Hopes, My Munchkins, Our Little Nest, Tidbits About My Life, Work

So tonight makes one week that I’ve been in the new apartment, and I’m loving it. I don’t have to deal with Dale at all. The kids and I cook dinner and eat together at the table every night then we clean up and do the dishes, before the kids take turns on who goes first taking their baths. I’m 2 miles from my mother and, in the other direction, a mile and a half from work. I have 2 grocery stores between here and work, and a branch office of my bank next to both of them. My children’s school is half a block away. The school has a Latchkey program that the kids get to stay at in lieu of daycare until I get off work that is cheaper than regular daycare, and they love it. We’re mostly unpacked, just a few boxes left to go through and a few minor things at the old house to pick up tomorrow, but it’s all coming together nicely. I even have new RED furniture!!! It’s so pretty!

I started my new job 2 1/2 weeks ago. I’m the paralegal for the Law Center of Oklahoma. It’s absolutely amazing!! I love what I do, and it’s the job I’ve always wanted. This is what I’ve been going to school for, and the experience I get here will help me get an even better job years down the road when I’ve finished school and decided where I want to spend the rest of my life. Life is going so well for us right now.

And then of course there’s the wonderful man in my life. Right now it’s a long-distance relationship, but we do the best we can, talking several times a day, and chatting all night. He’s the best thing to happen to me in a very long time. He makes me want to be a better me. He inspires me everyday to try harder and to be a better person, a better mother to my children, and a better employee at work. He brings out the best in me in so many ways. He’s so special. I truly adore him.

I will have a good life. I know this. I believe it. Things are working out for my children and I, and I will make them work, because I know that this is MY life now, I am not depending on ANYONE else, I am only relying on ME now, and I’m going to give us a great future.

Artistic Ingenuity
29.Apr.08, 11:30 am
Filed under: Goals, Plans, Tidbits About My Life, Work

I work in an auto repair shop which also rents uHaul trucks. This sounds pretty mundane, until you realize that this auto repair shop also houses the workshop for The Woodchuck Chop, one of my boss’ many other ventures. The Woodchuck Chop is a gallery in the Paseo Arts District that deals in custom cedar furniture and sculptures, wood artwork, custom carved marble pieces, sandblasted stone art and sculpture, sandblasted glass art, and more. We also do custom cut vinyl lettering for signs and window art on cars and buildings. He also installs decorative fountains for ponds, or what I call “waterscaping”.

Basically I’m the new Girl Friday for a Jack-of-all-trades.

Yesterday, my boss told me he really wants to kick the vinyl cutting into high gear. The Paseo Arts Festival is coming up on Memorial Day weekend and he wants me to work at the gallery for him then. He said we can custom cut the vinyl on the spot and make anything the customer asks for. We’re putting together some show boards to preview what we can do, and that way we can just save the files pre-drawn, and add lettering as requested, and sell dozens or even hundreds of them that weekend.

My cut: 50% of everything after costs!

This is a real opportunity to get my finances in good shape for the move. I can pay off the van, and stick the rest back for my new home. This is the best news I’ve had in a while! Things are really looking up for me for the first time in a very long time. I’d kind of forgotten what this felt like.

I’m going to be optimistic. I’m not going to hold my breath waiting for everything to fall apart. This will work out. I will move, and start my life over. My kids will be better off elsewhere, I will be better off elsewhere, and there are better things in life than Oklahoma City can offer us. Someone is definitely smiling on me right now.

Taxing Day
15.Apr.08, 13:58 pm
Filed under: Tidbits About My Life, Work

Am I the only person on the planet who can go in to get her starter fixed on her vehicle and come out with a job?

They mechanic offered me the desk chair to sit in behind the counter while he worked on my van, and I could see how disorganized the office was at a glance. The owner was in his office punching away at his calculator and emitting quiet curses at it from time to time, so before I was ready to go, I poked my head in and said, “Excuse me, sir, but would you happen to need any help here in the office, with billing and finances and paperwork, etc.?”

He looked at me like he was a dying man and I was his last chance, and said, “I’ll pay you $20 right now if you can add the numbers on this page. I took it, sat down at the computer, opened Excel, and made a quick spreadsheet with all of his expense categories and totals. He then handed me 4 more pages and then a quick list of the totals for the last half of 2007. I figured them all up, and he said, “I’ve got to have my taxes done by about 3pm today…. do you think you could help me?” I said it would be no problem and set to it. I went through his 2006 tax return and entered all of the info and then finished the figures for this year, and he ended up owing less than half of what he did last year. He said, “We’re well beyond $20 now, I’ll make this worth your while if you can work for me.”

So it’s not going to be full time for now. That’s ok, I can live with that. I still sub teach for now, but it’s going to pay more than sub teaching does, and it’s accounting, which I’m good at and, being the nerd I am, I actually enjoy.  He had to leave the office before I finished up, but he told me to come in tomorrow morning and we’d figure up how much he owes me – which I’m going to mostly put towards the work I had done on my van if it’ll cover it – and then we’re going to work out my job.

His wife kept coming in over and over saying, “God sent us an Angel today. Gary’s blood pressure was through the roof he was stressing out so bad over those taxes. Thank you so much!” and she gave me a big hug before I left. I’m really looking forward to this job, hopefully it’ll work out well for all of us.

Got Class?
16.Jan.08, 19:25 pm
Filed under: Rants, Work

I’ve been sub teaching again this semester. Sometimes I think I’ve stepped into the Twilight Zone. Tuesday morning I had a set of identical Asian quadruplets in my Senior AP Government class. They all looked exactly alike except one of them has obviously had a boob job. (AT 18, MY GOD!) 3 flat chested girls and one sister with work done, and all I could do was sit there and silently think of the Sesame Street song, “One of these things is not like the others…. one of these things just doesn’t belong.”

Why is it that girls these days feel the need at such a young age to have their bodies mangled and worked over with plastic? These girls were each stunning on their own, even without being “enhanced”. Could it have been the need to set herself apart from her sisters? To be a little less alike? I don’t know, but now this poor girl will forever be marked as “The sister with the boobs”. What a tagline!

There is the constant need girls feel to be stick-figure thin, the constant fear of being the outcast, the loser. And in the same day, I had kids who were putting me down (where they thought I couldn’t hear) for being fat. I don’t understand why kids feel the need to torment each other, and even adults, to the point of making them feel the need to do that sort of thing to themselves. It’s just not right. We’re all who we are, and that’s all we can be. If anyone thinks the teasing and taunting of high school is what life is all about, they really need to get their heads examined. Life goes on, and six months after high school you will have way more to deal with than worrying about what the girl in First Hour said about your hair or who you’re going to the Homecoming Dance with.

Wake up kids. Please, do us all a favor, and love yourself while you’re young. You probably look the best now that you ever will in your lives. Enjoy it while it lasts! Don’t start getting work done at 18! Be happy with who you are! So you’re flat chested, or your ass is disproportionate to the rest of you – OH WELL! It’s not the end of the world! Marilyn Monroe was a size 16 and she is still considered one of the most beautiful women in the world! Life is short… enjoy being young while you can. It doesn’t last.

And I second that!
23.May.07, 20:22 pm
Filed under: Hopes, Work

I am up for a second interview for a new position I want. I have applied for an Accounting Admin position at a local company, and they called me in for my first interview today. I’d already spoken to them on the phone, through email, and filled out a questionnaire, so I felt pretty good about it. I was early, and passed all of their aptitude tests with flying colors, so the personal interview portion was a breeze.

The girl was so impressed with my experience and skills that she’s recommending that her HR manager and the CEO sit in together on my second interview, hopefully later this week. They wanted the position filled yesterday, but hadn’t found the right person yet. She said she was very excited about me and hopefully this will work out well.

I was asked for salary requirements when I sent in my resume, and I asked for a higher amount than I expected, stating that it was negotiable. She told me it was more than doable with my experience!!! I’m so happy I could scream right now, but my daughter is asleep, in her sleeping bag, in the hallway just a few feet from me, protesting her bedtime.

26.Mar.07, 13:38 pm
Filed under: Rants, Work

I emailed my ex-boss this weekend to let her know I would not be coming back out to her house due to the aforementioned lack of pay. She was going to be gone all weekend at her mother’s house, so I didn’t want to bother her during her family time.

She didn’t check her email when she got back, apparently, and called me all morning while I was gone. I got back and saw the caller ID FULL of her number. Then I got an email from her, “I wish you would have discussed this with me before you decided to quit. We were going to sit down with you today and discuss further options. We talked about you on Friday and are greatly impressed.” I TRIED to talk to her on Thursday. That’s what’s so frustrating about this. I thought she understood the situation. I’m giving up half my pay to come out there and work for her, and I just can’t do it because I have bills to pay and she can afford to actually pay someone to work for her.

I don’t know what to think. I would love to continue to work for her family. They are wonderful people, but I can’t do it if it means giving up half of my pay and having to use that much gas every week to get there and back. It’d be stupid on my part to do so. I have bills I can’t pay. My gas is going to be shut off if I don’t pay it by Friday, meanwhile, I turn down sub teaching assignments worth twice as much when I go out there for next to nothing.

Ugh. I emailed her back and told her that, I’m waiting to hear from her again.

To be continued…